It was back-to-school day. Adam started his new inclusive school today. It was not unfamiliar; he had been there two years ago. He had a great day and was typing very well. Adam was happy when I picked him up and was apparently glad to be back with the big kids at lunch and recess. In the meantime, I’m up to planning the rest of his programs, and my own. I am due to defend my thesis this Thursday and if all goes well, will start my doctorate and teaching assignment next week.
As I opened Adam’s bag this evening I got a new kind of homework that I was most delighted to find – I was asked to tell the teacher about Adam. I was asked to write in a circle about what Adam likes to do as well as answer questions such as: Who is he? What does he mean to you? What are the things about him that I should know? I was just thinking again the other day how, just because are kids have this label we name autism, that our children inherit an identity that does not belong to them. I mean, how often are we asked to talk about our children in positive ways (for lack of a better word)? Aren’t we typically asked by therapists what our kids like for the sake of using them as reinforcement as opposed to knowing who our children are? And what about knowing our children as people first? In thinking about the year ahead, I’ve spent much time over the summer pondering all the things that Adam is, what he loves, what he is good at, and what he brings to his family and to the world. Then surprise! I got this “homework” in his backpack today. Needless to say, all that thinking about what Adam is, as opposed to what he isn’t, helped me to fill the circle quickly. I’m so glad someone else sees the value of this too.