Focus On The Positive

Filed Under (Acceptance, autism, Inspiration, Joy) by Estee on 18-04-2011

Huh. I just wrote that title quickly and then Monty Python’s Always Look on the Bright Side of Life plays in my head and makes me laugh. It’s so cheesy, it’s perfect. Focusing on the positive means you have to feel things, even uncomfortable things. We can screw up, then click our heals and sing a silly tune. So what? So you feel bad one day about something, be it yourself, your “fate,” your kid’s autism. If we didn’t feel we wouldn’t be able to enjoy the richness of life. I have my down days and my up ones and keep learning that staying with the positive is a continued discipline that has to be practiced day in and day out. If I worry about Adam one day, I always know that the next day I’ll think differently because I’ve made that choice. I believe in that kind of life view and that it takes some effort to, well, think positive. That’s it. It sounds easy. No grass is greener than the kind we grow in our heads.

On to my point. Today I’ll share some nice comments in the May 2011 issue of Today’s Parent by readers who read The Joy of Autism article in April. It was the fertilizer I needed to click my barefooted heals, as if the sun was shining on a warm spring day, in thick long grass.

Count Your Blessings

Re: “The Joy of Autism” (March). I always like to commend magazines that include articles on autism. I feel that the more awareness there is, the easier it is for parents to begin to accept and involve their child with autism in the community. As a senior IBI (intensive behavioural intervention) therapist, I develop and implement programming for children with autism and work closely with families to help develop skills. I must admit that I found this article refreshing with its focus on the joys that children with autism often offer. Parents can become so focused on making gains that they forget to enjoy all the little moments of joy. As a parent of three children, I always try to encourage the families I work with to enjoy their child just as they would any other child, and to embrace those little moments of joy that children with autism so often provide. — Rebecca Grezegorczyk, St. Thomas, Ontario.

Fabulous! I raise not one but two boys with autism and I can attest to the fact that finding “the joy” can often seem like a futile and frankly impossible feat. However, I too feel, and always have, that my boys’ state of being should be seen as a blessing. I honestly believe that people living with autism have a great deal to teach the “typical” world. T’is the human experience magnified, is it not? — Marlowe K, via


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I’m a PhD candidate at York University, Critical Disability Studies, with a multi-disciplinary background in the arts as a curator and writer. I am the Founder of The Autism Acceptance Project (, and an enamoured mother of my only son who lives with the autism label. I like to write about our journey, critical issues regarding autism in the area of human rights, law, and social justice, as well as reflexive practices in (auto)ethnographic writing about autism.